Born in a piece of paper and began a lifetime;
健康开怀一辈子Graduation piece of paper,StruggleLife;　　
MarriageA piece of paper, tortured life;
An official piece of paper, the struggle for life;　　
MoneyA piece of paper, hard life;
Honor a piece of paper, catchy title for life;
Doctor a piece of paper,PainLife;
Eulogy piece of paper, closed a lifetime;
To play down the paper, to understand life;
Forget those paper,HappyLife!

When most people are concerned about when you fly Gaobu Gao,
Only a handful of people care about you fly tired,
This is theFriendship。
No matter how busy, we should also take care of themselves,　　
FriendThough not often linked, but have been thinking about
He Naicha less, do not eat just baked bread,
Away from the power supply is charging.
Drink plenty of water during the day-night drink less,
Do not drink more than two cups of coffee a day.
Eat less oil and more food,
Best of sleep for the 22 o'clock to six in the morning.
5:00 p.m. at having a fancy meal,
Drink no more than a cup a day.
Do not have cold water clothes capsule
Bogey medication immediately before going to bed half an hour to lie down.
Less than eight hours of sleep will make you stupid people,
There napHabitsOld people is not easy.
Left a cell phone battery Do not call,
Left when the radiation is usually a grid of one thousand times.
Then use the left ear phone,
With the right ear will have a directHurtTo the brain.

A Center: All health-centered.

Two basic points:
Distress when they are unrestrained 1:00 to see a little confused world.

3 forget:
Forget age,
Forget the past,
Forget old scores.

4Has：
No matter how weak you are one or more strong, we must have real people who love you,
Have intimate friends,
Own upBusiness，
HasWarmAccommodation.

5 should be:
To sing,
To jump,
To be solid,
To laugh,
To be slim.

6 not:
Can not be hungry before eating,
Can not be thirsty before drinking,
Can not be sleepy Cai Shui,
Can not be tired until break,
Can not be sick before inspection,
Can not be old againRegret。

Some people are always complaining about how bad the other side; there are some people always feel the other good place in his heart. Two distinctAttitude, What is the meaning behind it?

踏踏实实去爱Are always complaining about the other bad people, love of the selfHeartA picture, rather than in front of that real person. WeGrowthThe process, they would always hear a lot of "IdealHow the object should be "concept, including appearance, language, behavior, attitudes, the reaction of things,Mentality、Personality、Interests、Habits, As well asLifeTo expect. Accumulated, we have had a photograph in their hearts: the hearts of men are "Snow White" photos, woman mind is "Prince Charming" pictures. All in all, it is necessary enoughPerfect. (The "perfect" is oftenRealitySome will not, even if there is not necessarily contribute to the establishmentSuccessHappyTheFamilyAnd life. For example, "When do I do notHappy, He will immediately lay down their hands to do, come comfort me, "or" She is always so compliant in next to me followed me, what I heard. "All this is just unrealisticFantasy。）

Then, both men and women relying on heart pictures around to look for, finally found an inner photographs look like, and the heart to him / her, and finally get married. Have worked extremely hard to find a consistent picture of the object, thinking that it will have theHappinessTheLifeA. But soon, he / she will be found that would have seen, and the other promised benefits does not appear, but had paid no attention has exposed the shortcomings. He / she started to complain about each other, always asking each other to change. AtLoveStage, the two sides will try to please each other, meet each other's wishes, so that the other more illusions.

Inner photos are not going to change, onlyTimeLong the color will fade some, or send yellow. However, people are always changing, every minute, there will be different compared with that photo, change more and more widening gap complaint also more and more.

Another kind of person, always in my heart feel good in each other, or the beginning of a time it was holding the photograph of photos to look for. But whenFeelingsBegan to develop, they move their attention from the pictures the other body. They started to look at each other those who have alreadyHasAnd that his past did not pay attention, so that myFeelSatisfied with the place, they would find some other party from the other side who have, more than pictures better, have more meaningful dialogue thing. In this way, they focus on the photos, the long transfer to the other side of the body.

If people have this mentality, then even arranged forMarriage, You can also nurture loving feelings to; On the contrary, that is, the marriage will also move some childhoodFailure. Always holding the photograph of photos to find a partner easily out of touch with reality, the result is again and againDisappointed, Each time less and less enthusiasm after the heart, perhapsLonelyTo spend their twilight years of life, or the inability to live in a disappointing marriage.

Therefore, the heart of the photos may be used as a standard start looking for objects, but must know how to put it down, especially when it has been met with satisfaction and feel yourself a good person. This time, it might be put aside your photos, just by that person's own terms (rather than in line with the number of pictures) to seriously think about the cool-headed: those conditions, whether in the long years to come and his co-work together to create a successful and happy life.

From a different point of view of inner pictures of the people inside even a perfect object, ask yourself: its not perfect, how can we ask a perfect target? Also, the perfect object, often "do not taste good-looking . " Guangdong has a very appropriate words: "meet Huan difficult to live together." This is a true description. With a perfect person together quickly, not you feel not good enough for him / her, is he / she told you impatient.

Think about several issues at the beginning of their own, do you think love's rights have anything to wrong with that?LoveThe need to seek common ground, from now on, to seriously examine their love and make appropriate self-regulation, stability, and enhance their feelings of bar!

To understand the rights of love need to seek common ground with each other to maintain smooth communication, timely understanding of each other's needs and feelings and make appropriate adjustments to the run-in self-feelings, to Damo Qi just around the corner, love, harmony is not just desire!

　FatherDeath 10 years later, in my "carrot and stick", theMotherFinally agreed to come to Zhengzhou with me - her youngestDaughterTogetherLife. This year, the mother 70 years old, I am 40 years old. 70-year-old mother, thin, and the original height of one meter 5, were the years has reduced a few centimeters, it seems even more thin, face still bright and clean, but no traces of many vicissitudes of life, and her hair has not all white, a little hair stubborn to grow with.
舍得爱We borrowed a car to go back to pick her up. She has long lived for several decades old house to pack properly, finishing well his own luggage. There are two bags of luggage that side of her family's wheat used exclusively for our mill, this noodle Wheat. But the day that I decided not to bring two bags of noodles, because the car the trunk is too small, we have to bring too many things. His mother insisted on the surface with, be sure to bring, she said. She said so, I suddenly froze a moment, looked at her and tried to understand what has taken the side to indicate to move back room, I reached out tentatively to touch. Sure enough, at the bottom, soft face, there are a small group Yingying things. If I am wrong, which is a mother to give us money.
Money is spent on food, the motherFor many years a secret. 10 years ago, I got married in Zhengzhou rented a small house to live a new life when the most constraints. At that time, I would really like is not the house, not a more promising work, but a decent wardrobe. That is the winter of that year, the mother passes him the Trustee and a half bags of millet. Mr. Millet was poured into m barrels, they found hidden inside the 500 money, and there is a small print, it is only his father's handwriting: Give plum buy a wardrobe. Married, the mother already gave me the dowry money to buy a wardrobe. Later she knew that I would be moved to do the money he used, in turn make up over. That night, I took 10 yuan a thick Yida money and tears.
In those years, the mother was again and again saved her money on food, the people give me, give second sister eldest sister, married years later we are all still supplement with our lives. However, the money, she is to save them from that a few acres of fields, and we all do not know. This time, even though she was with our peers, it is still pocket the money into the face, in her view, it is the most secure.
Face has been brought back, I take the money out of the return of the mother, the mother said, this is my car used to Tong Tong. Tong Tong is her grandson, thisTimeHe always wanted to race cars, as expensive, I have not bought him, last to return home, he listened to his mother Xu is that the mother will be a note of it. 2000 is the year she was a few acres of land where the harvest it, we are not willing to, but she was willing to.
Memory, the mother has been a willing person, for us, to relatives, to neighbors, love willing to pay, things are willing to give, willing to borrow the money, effort is also willing to spend. Sometimes do not know if she was a thin woman in rural areas, why this is so willing.　　

Two
Mother's house down, every morning, she woke up early to cook, millet gruel, small steamed buns, and egg pie ... ... Bianzhuohuayang children. We no longer have to work at noon urgent hurry to buy food, all the household chores his mother the full burden. Balcony has also added a new two basins Lv Yingying of garlic, with the mother's home, more kinds of unspeakable comfort.
Mother brought two bags of noodles, a bag into the bucket, another bag, her husband placed in the balcony. After a few days, I found the bag on the balcony floor surface has been moved to the height of the platform drying. Mr. is a careless person, he should not be put, I am puzzled and asked her mother, she said, ah, I put up, the sun drying, do not bad. I told her an emergency, and that platform, one meter tall, the bag surface, sixty or seventy pounds, less than one meter tall and five to 90 pounds underweight mother, went so far as it moved up its own. I washed her shouting, how do you get up to? So heavy, sparkling waist how to do? Zazhuo how do you do? Out how to do something ... anything ... a string of fierce her. She just laugh, and around the apron and stood there, and so finished me temper, whispering that this is not nothing to do? Something happens too late! I was scared, but more is pained. Until his mother assured me that will no longer do any heavy work, I gradually came to relieve his anger.
Mother shortly after one day of the said Mr. Sunday to those you call your classmates to go home to dinner, and I have come half a month, and not seen them before then.
Mr. read in ZhengzhouUniversityThe city did a lot of students, relations are good, at first from each will be among the sect, but now, we haveHabitsGathering in the restaurant. City life is so busy and indifferent, not very close, and generally not at home in hospitality. I have for the President explained that the mother, they often gather outside it. Mother shook his head outside where there is a good home and the outside of your meal to say the least are not hygienic. Moreover, and where can we not come home? Came to our house it seems pro. Then, the motherResoluteMr. let the students take home over the weekend to get together. We fail to beat her, agreed. Mr. classmates were a few ties to the closest of the fellow playing the phone, inviting them to come to our house over the weekend.
A weekend day, the mother is busy in the kitchen. Afternoon, came one after another classmate of Mr., and symbolically raised some gifts. I'll do the dishes one by one mother brought out, that severalDistinguished careerAlmost every day at the hotel entertainment of men, was immediately several dishes like pasta dishes and a few small spots to attract in the past. One can not help but reach out Nieqi a vegetable dumplings, muttered that childhood favorite dishes his mother made dumplings, not eaten for many years. Mother Bianba the whole dish dumpling-ended in front of him, saying,LikeTo eat, later used to come home to eat, I'll give you to do. The man nods, suddenly on the red eye socket, his mother had died many years, he has not been back to his hometown in a long time.
That night, we drink less, but eat enough rice, so also said that much more. That if the content is not normal at the hotel, said the business field or unit, the community thing. Little mention of the family, was Man Manliao up when it comes to home, talking aboutParents... ... Was actually closer to a long absence.
Three
Since then, the family ever excited. Mother said, so we go, people live in the world, with a total close to each other.
The mother after the first three months, one weekend afternoon, someone knocked on the door, is living in the oppositeWoman, Carrying his big cherry pot clean. A woman a little embarrassed to say that to give aunt taste. I am surprised with admiration over the original move, because of the decoration alignment problems, we had trouble with her family something contradictory. Had not addict to get acquaintance, so, the relationship between colder down, lived for three years, without any contacts. Even in front of the corridor, are all swept all of which place the small pieces. She cold-called the fresh cherries sent just listed, I was puzzled, sometimes actually do not know what to say. Her face was as red-on, a bit incoherent, aunt to do dim sum,ChildLovely Chine ... ... suddenly come to understand that I was his mother.
Mother did not know that we are a little festive children, in fact, even if they know, she will still do so, the mother's view, "dearer than distant relatives and close neighbors" is the sentence of the most reasonable words. So she first knocked on people's doors for others send a small snack, to send their packets dumplings, even made their own kinds of fresh small garlic ... ... sincerely helped us to open a neighbor's door. Later, I was a womanBecame friends, Her children often come to our home,GrandmaGranny with long-short way behind the mother, the pro-too good to be like family.
Neighbors, not just-to-door, all around, with a district home to many of the people, mothers with anaphora. She often residential gardens and colleague of her husband's parents to chat to help them take care of grandchildren. Not only that, there are material transactions, the mother often made some flavor of small points, enthusiastically gave neighbors neighbors, this is also the mother lives in the rural areas to cultivate habits. Snacks, while not expensive, but because I have a mellow flavor can not buy outside, full of deep human touch.
On one occasion, that Mr. a child suffering from leukemia, my colleagues, the mother wants us to send some money in the past. Because it is not close and from my colleagues, we just want to say something symbolic, his mother firmly refused to agree, saying that people in this life, no one may encounter difficult, are you willing to help others, and so you have something happens, and families would not will be willing to help you. A child's illness is a big and difficult for others, let's hit, and can help to have to help. We have heard the mother.
Come six months after her mother, sir, went so far as accidents promotion, the recommendation of the election in the unit, his votes obviously prevailed. Mr. came back said with a smile, this is the mother of the credit for it, Mom, I would vote yes to pull the past. We discovered recently that our relationships get better even unprecedented, that is good, obviously much less polite in good faith. A word is not knowledge of the mother, simply because willing, actually quietly for us to win so much, was something we had always wanted to win has been unattainable. She said think about it, you are willing for other people is good, so they are willing to pairs of Hello. To her, this is a rural woman of the most simple and the true; to us, is undoubtedly a truth too deep.　　

Four
Warmth of the day, I would like to bring his mother around town. May be the mother because the natural motion sickness, Zuo Ci vehicles such as ill health field, so often refuse to go out. That weekend, I decided to take her to the zoo. Mother said it had not seen an elephant. Zoo close to home, a few points like the road. Mother said, go walk. I do not agree, a few stations road, for a 70-year-old, or too far away. But she also refuses to go by car, I had an idea, mother, I ride take you. Mother with a smile agreed. I launched the car, carefully Jiang Tabao to the front of the beam on one arm just Lanzhu her. Hold time, and my heart a pain, she was so light, curled up in front of me, like a child.　　

On the way to go through two junctions, one of which happened to downtown. Carefully Riding junction, is the red light, I would get off lightly, yet firm, there are police officers from the crowds through the years, came to me and said, you are not allowed to take people know? Lie ahead with. Finished bow will be ticketed. Mother froze a moment, clutching my arm to the down, I hasten to Fu steady her, and with the young police said sorry and explained that my mother, motion sickness, old age, and can not ride, I want to take her to the zoo take a look ... ...
Police also froze a moment to see me to take This is an old man, not waiting for him to say anything, the mother accused me of, how can you not tell me the city with a bicycle to prevent people? And then insisted on down. I was at a loss, that the police asking for a Chanzhu a mother, aunt, I am sorry I did not see clearly, the city simply did not let their children wear a cycle, you sit. Then he suddenly raised his hand to me in earnest saluted. Then he turned to the person in front of me to release a space, gesturing to stop the four vehicles, the first line, waving hands, I passed.
I took my mother, that slowly across the wide intersection, surrounded by pedestrian stop the vehicle stationary, and only I took my mother proud of everyone's attention years ahead. That was the first time I've ever been so thick and courtesy. Because the mother, because she was willing to give a little love, a young police officers meet by chance, they are willing for me an exception, are willing to give me such a high respect.
This courtesy is the mother gave me.　　

Five
Mother was with me when you find out the third year of lung cancer. The results came out, there's a doctor, a friend told me honestly that if the lady is good, not surgery, and listening to heaven to make personnel bar. This is a doctor that he should say to the families of patients, but it is truth. Mr. and after discussion, decided to follow the doctor's arrangements to his mother back home. Also decided not to conceal his mother, so she spoke the truth. Listened to our mother, very calm finish, nodding, saying, that's it. Then, the mother proposed to return home.
Mother was still alive the last time, I'll at her side. Drug just to stop the pain, can not withstand the ravages of cancer. Her emaciated body flew down and could no longer stand, days is good, I would hold her up, carefully placed on a chair, accompanying her in the sun. She began to eat rice, drink water will spit it out, but has never revealed anyPainThe expression, those who remained stubbornly Xu black hair with vibrant, emaciated face was bright and clean, as long as awake, his face will be slightly Yang ZhaoSmile。
On that day, his mother said to me, your dad he wanted to me. Mom, but I could not bear. I held her hand, grip in the palm heart, would like to grip firmly, yet not dare force, only gently. Mei, this time, you have to be willing to. She smiled, gently hand reversible, and patting my hand. But this time, mother, I was reluctant. I can not tell his heart was just as painful that Suidiao the Tenga.
Mother's day to go, mighty funeral procession from the village and routed Murao, in addition to relatives, as well as my husband and I classmates, friends, colleagues, we plot the neighbors all around ... ... a lot of people, which not only adults, there are children in rural rare scenes. Slowly walk through the ranks, out of the village, faintly heard in the crowd of passers-by had been argued, is an officer of it?, Or a child on the outside when the high officials of the ... ...
The mother in this life, have one son and three women are the most common people, neither official nor commercial. Mother, I am even moreTrivialAs trash, have not seen major aspects of society, nor read the books, never received any formal education, she was only willing to have a lover's heart. SheLifeThe grand final scene, is willing to use her life's heart, unwittingly won for itself.